Dealing with Reality

Here’s a nice article. I shall translate it to English later…

　　希腊神话里，爱神丘比特身上背了两支箭，一支金箭，一支铅箭。传说被金箭射中的人就会滋生爱苗，情爱如痴，被铅箭射中的人就反目成仇，恨之入骨。
　　一般人总是希望永远不要被铅箭射中，而且希望天天被金箭射中。可叹的是，丘比特总是双箭连发，当一个人为金箭沉迷的时候，第二支箭马上就射来了。
　　但是人有所不知，金箭与铅箭不是背在丘比特身上，而是背负在我们自己心上。我们热爱一个人的时候，其心如金，闪闪生辉，所到之处鸟语花香皆如春天；我们怨恨人的候,其心如铅，灰败沉重，所到之地冰雪封冻，一如严冬。
　　其实我们每个人都背负着金箭与铅箭。
　　爱神，就是我们自己。

Life Feel , ” What is the secret to happiness ? ”

Prophageus , ” Choice . ”

I would love to share an article with you.
It’s written by a teacher of mine : Prophageus
You can say that he is today’s guest blogger. Enjoy !
 

Will

The dictionary defines will as something with which one makes a choice, especially with purposefulness or determination. That is a very useful way to look at what we all have available to us. And, if you take any event, and it’s perceived outcome you can trace it all back to a single choice. One of the better tools we’ve been given, free will is definitely one of the most useful if we learn to use it. Many of us don’t really make real choices, we make frivolous ones based on many outside factors that may or may not be too relevant.

So, what goes into using our will to make a choice? What are the key ingredients to expressing our will in a useful and meaningful way? Do we really have a choice? Are we in enough control of ourselves to make real choices with purposefulness? When’s the last time you made a choice, I mean REALLY made a choice and stuck to it and did it? Will is the ultimate tool, but how do you use it?

The first step to expressing your will successfully, in a manner that’s useful to yourself and others, is to realize that you have WILL. So, how do you realize you have will? You look at yourself, deeply, and observe your choices. Ask yourself, why did I really choose to do THAT? Many choices we make aren’t really expressive of our will, sometimes they express other’s will. We make choices based on others opinions, on the unknown, on ‘facts’, on our own sometimes unrealistic perception, on other’s unrealistic perception, on ‘experts’, on feelings we might not necessarily interpret correctly, etc. So, analyze the choices you make throughout a day. Count how many times you actually made a real choice. A choice where you actually really wanted something, and you made a real determined, purposeful choice to do it/get it/etc. Observe yourself, and your will, how you use it daily. That is how to realize you have will, and how intertwined it is in everthing that occurs in your life. You can begin to see how your will leads you to everything you experience, whether you give others power over your will or use it yourself, everything is up to you.. it’s your choice.

So, after we realize we have will, then what? Well, now you start to use your will to really make a choice to get to know yourself. You cannot really make realistic clear goals of what you want in life if you don’t even really know yourself. So, get to know yourself. Then, use your will to decide what you do and do not want in your life, and make a firm choice to stick to that. Start exercising your will. Even with something simple, like a habit you KNOW you should stop, but you just haven’t for ’some reason’. Use your newfound will to stop that habit ‘cold turkey‘, and be aware of how powerful and alive you now feel. When you really start to make real choices, and you use your will to do so, you’ll notice a change in yourself and your reality.

I have to admit that I have made a mistake recently.
I have to apologies to myself and make the right choices.

Actually I was confused about my choices and action.
Recently I do things out of my passion.
I have to admit that I have created several new blogs because of my keen interest in certain themes. I blog and gain pleasure from doing so.
I was not certain whether my action was taken due to intuition, inspiration, distraction or passion.
I just do things headlong without really considering my action.

However, I was aware that something is wrong.
I feel like I am doing things that I am not suppose to do.
Time is wasted and somehow I went imbalance and confused.
I have made my choices unwisely.

Making choices is not easy.
I myself have made a lot of mistake in choosing.
I must be aware of my “future” action
and consider every of my choice,
whether the decision I make has a “need” or it is just an outcome of distraction or confusion.
I learn from my mistake and I must move on.

For now I need to find my direction.
I feel like my current blog is ego driven and I need to stop for a while and set things properly.
I need to clear my head.

Making choices is simple,
but not easy.

Will power is a human potential that is worth developing.
With will your consciousness is making firm choices and putting your will into action further empower your act of consciousness.

Will is the action of your consciousness by making choices.
That is why one needs to learn about choosing.
It is simple, but may not be easy.

With will your consciousness is making a choice and heading towards its goal.
Consistent will will enable you to manifest the reality that you desire.

Having will power is very useful in dealing with yourself,
which is controlling your own emotions and mind,
instead of being controlled by them.

Weak people are easily swayed by outer stimulus,
For example people who are over sensitive (having low emotional quotient)
can become extremely unease and tensed when someone just call them “stupid” or “useless”
(It is obvious that emotionally strong people would not let themselves being controlled by anger just because of some petty labels)

Some people even commit suicide just because their inner voice and emotions have controlled them. That is very sad.
Therefore we need to develop our will power to control ourselves well.
We need will power to be able to make choices and control our own reality.
(Remember, choices should be made by your consciousness (will), not your inner voice nor your emotions)

Choose to develop your will power to control your emotions and mind.
Whenever your emotions and inner voices are trying to influence you, choose firmly not to succumb to them. You are the master of yourself, not your mind nor emotions.
With consistent will, you will gradually develop your will power and your emotions and mind will have less influence over you. You should control them, instead of being controlled by them

There are ways to develop will power and I shall blog about it in my future post.

Life is about making choices.
Make them well.

If some men conquer in battle
a thousand times a thousand men,
and if another conquer himself,
he is the greatest of conquerors.

- The Dhammapada

For a man to conquer himself is the first and noblest of all victories.

- Plato

It is better to conquer yourself than the reality.
Before you can control the reality,
you have to control yourself.

Many people obey and succumb to the voices in their heads (mind) and their emotions.
The mind is the tool of our consciousness
and emotions are what we feel.
We have the choice of not being controlled by the “inner demon” in us.
People who cannot control themselves are like being dragged by their emotions and inner voice all the time.
They lack the will power to control themselves.
Easily they live their lives like puppets.

It is true that it is not easy for a normal person to control their mind and emotions at first.
Many people become agitated when they try to control themselves or meditate.
However, practice makes perfect.
If you choose to learn to control yourself consistently,
you will gain the will power to live the life you truly desire,
without being pulled or pushed by your mind and emotion.
Your consciousness should make the choices,
not your emotions and mind.
Learn how to control them.
with patience you will win yourself.

Some people say that not adhering to emotions and thought is being hypocrite.
They think that one should swear and being cunning to “fit” into the “real life”
They believe that by doing so, one is being honest to (her)himself.
If you choose to act according to your inner voices and emotions,
you will stay stagnant and limited
and you will always be controlled by your own mind and emotions
end up you will get stuck in your own “reality”
That is your choice in life… so choose well.

Choose not to be a slave of your own mind and emotions.
Overcome them consistently and you will gain the will power
so that you can control yourself and your own reality.

We all need to realise that we have free will and we can choose.
If we do not make use of our free will and make conscious choices
we will be controlled by other people or reality itself.

Realise that free will is in your hand and make conscious choices all the time.
The reality is yours to control so live your life that you wish.

You have the free will to choose to do anything accept taking people’s lives or limiting and damaging other people’s free will.

We must respect other people’s free will as well.
Attacking their choices in life is negative.
Everyone has their own choices to make and they will “grow” in life as they choose.

Some people choose to be nasty and treat others badly.
Well, sad for them. It is their choice and they will reap what they sow.
There is no need to attack nastiness with more nastiness because that will not rectify the problem.
It only brings more damage to life.

You do not need others to control you.
You can choose the way to live
and you can choose to do whatever you want.
So make your choices well.

Thanks to bp_ffei for introducing me a wonderful online game.
The game is called Grow Cube.
It is a very healthy, simple, creative and constructive game.

It is a simple step by step game with some elements for you to pick.
Every round you choose an element for the land to develop.
By doing so you learn about how each element relates to each other
at the same time you learn to make choices.

I strongly recommend this game to all my readers.
It trains us to realise that everything is interrelated
and it trains us to be a good chooser.
Have fun playing the game.

Game link

The world seems to be imperfect
It is because many people are ignorant and they make “bad” choices in life.

Many people choose to attach to lower emotions like hatred, greed and sadness.
Not many people choose to embrace higher emotions like love, compassion and gratitude consistently.

To help in improving humanity,
the best thing you can do is being a good example.

Practise what you preach,
choose to think wisely
choose to feel positively
choose to talk and act properly
and choose to treat others well.

Let go of attachment towards negativity and avoid things that are unhealthy

By being a “good” person,
you are changing the world starting from yourself.
People around you are connected to you so it is important to show them good examples of livelihood.
The reality will gradually improve.

It won’t help to attack negativity with negativity because negativity will bring more damage.
Choosing positively is the healthy way to improve situations.

To help humanity,
The best thing you can do is being a good example.

People who cannot control their thoughts and emotions, cannot control the reality.
They let reality control their thoughts and emotions.
They cannot control because they are not good at making conscious choices.
They are more to accepters than choosers.

Start to control your thoughts and emotions by realising that you have free will to choose.
you can choose not to let negativity control you and you can embrace higher emotions like love, compassion and gratitude.

By having control over your “inner” world
you can proceed to control your “outer” reality.

Life is about making choices

- Life Feel

Choosing seems to be simple and easy but many people are not really choosing in life.
I have been using the word “choose” on my blog many times because I want my readers to realise that choosing consciously is what needed to be done if you wish to have control over your life.

Many people live in the passive state of accepting realities.
Instead of knowing what they need and choosing what to think, feel and do in life,
they choose to believe that reality is fixed and one has to accept the outcome in life.
That is not true.

The events in life is a product of our choices in the past.
What you choose or accept now will lead you to the life in the future
and now is the time where you can make choices and take action.
That is why life is actually in the now, not in the past nor future.

If we toss people into a (lucid) dream
where they have clear awareness in the dream and are able to do or create whatever they wish,
I believe they will just stand in the dream wondering what they should create in the dream despite having the ability to do whatever they imagine.
Many people just do not know what they need in life.
They just live by accepting their “fate” and being passive
yet they whine and complain that life is pathetic and uncontrollable.

Realise that you are the director of your own life and choosing is very important
even in small matters.
Stop being a pajama person,
who just accept reality passively and believe that reality is fixed.
Be a good chooser so that you can lead your life and live well.

Your thought and Emotion affects your life greatly.

People always have the perception that thought and emotion is something “inside” us
Most probably it is because they have inner physical sensation when they feel or think of something.
There is no saying that our consciousness is “inside” our bodies.
Our consciousness can be enveloping the physical body instead of residing “inside” it
or perhaps the consciousness is timeless and spaceless and it perceives through the physical body.
If that is the case, our thought and emotional process is affecting not just ourselves, but also our surrounding, as there is “connection” between our inner world and outer reality.

We are like souls with bodies, not bodies with souls.

What we think and feel attracts similar realities,
which will lead to similar outcome.

Thinking and feeling is actually making choices because we actually choose to think and feel.
Many people do not realise it as they have accepted that feeling and thought is something naturally fixed and not their choice. It is not true.
By making choices, even subtle choices of feeling and thinking,
you are choosing and attracting reality in life.

So be careful of what you choose to think and feel.
Choose to avoid negative thinking and emotion when they arise.
Attaching to this negativity will only cause you to be trapped in the loop of life where negative events will repeat themselves endlessly.
Therefore it is important to let go of the attachment towards negativity.

Avoid attaching to negativity (hatred, sadness, anger, greed).
One has the free will to choose to embrace the higher spectrum (love, gratitude).
Choose to have love and compassion and think healthily
and you will find that your life events are positive.

Do or don’t do.
There is no trying.

Make firm choice on your action with will,
not throwing uncertain words like “trying”.

Being a Doer is far better than being a talker.
So do instead of try.

Mother’s day, Father’s day, Valentine’s day, Children’s day, Christmas day, Nurses day, Doctor day, Lawyer day, Octoberfest, National day, Brother’s day, Sister’s day etc.

endless festivals…

I do not need to be told

when to get together with my family members.
when to do my shopping
what to buy on certain day
when to spend money on gifts and stuffs
what to do in certain day
how to live in certain day

I do not need to follow what others are doing
and I do not need the media (or politicians) to inform me when or how to celebrate.

I am free and I can choose how to live my days.
Choose everyday to be good day
and NOW is the best time you can have.

Realise that you do not need to be told what to do.
You have the free will to choose your action.

We have the free will to choose our realities in life.
Unfortunately many people choose to give up this privilege and let other people control them.

Many people are indecisive in life.
They let others (for example the government) to do things or decide things for them.
When they cannot handle their lives well,
they cling to fear and they become dependant.
Hence they are being controlled easily.

We are made to feel a bit of fear, insecurity and other negative emotions so that we give up our choice and let others rule our lives.

People need to be awaken and realise that they do not have to live in controlled lives and they have the free will to choose.

Open your eyes and observe and do not let negativity rule your life.

I would like to quote something from this webpage.

If you don’t care to take control of your mind, others will do their best to do it for you. It begins with your parents who most often do have your best interests at heart, though they can only teach you what they have learned. It then continues with educational institutions whose main interest is in turning you into a socially-productive individual who will pledge allegiance to and feel dependent upon the external world or rather the powers that govern the specific country. It is not in their interest to turn you into a fearless human being who is fully aware of and capable of using his mental faculties, who knows that his thoughts create his reality, because then you cannot be controlled and manipulated. It is in their interest to keep you feeling slightly anxious, afraid, slightly inadequate, insecure, and helpless - feeling good enough to be socially productive, but not so good that you stop participating in a never-ending chain of purchasing pills and goodies that will at least for a few moments make you feel a little bit better. In this way you keep on fueling economy, which is good for the country.

What you feed your mind, you experience in your life

That’s why, after you get sufficiently brainwashed through the schooling system, you get more helpings through daily newspapers, news and TV programs. In this way, your mind gets a new daily dose of programming with fresh disasters in the world, lest you forget that there is a possible danger lurking behind every corner. You get more helpings through flashy advertisements. They are all happily programming your subconscious mind, whether you are aware of it or not.

A lovely woman and a hot car may be just what you need to feel better right now

Companies are investing billions of dollars each year on advertising because it is a wonderful way of hypnotizing people - of influencing people’s thoughts and emotions - and it works. When you keep on flashing an idea - whether through words, pictures, music, movies or any other form - day in and day out - it becomes so familiar to the people that they accept it as their own.

Many people unconsciously dwell in the past.
They choose to relive their past memory.
Day after day they think about their old life
instead of living in now.

If you choose to adhere to the past all the time,
you will get stuck in your past reality and it will be hard for you to move on.

Past exist so that we can learn from it and move on.
It is the old events that have faded away so there is no point of reliving it.
Choose not to whine
Choose not to believe that life stays in the grey world of past

If the past is haunting you
Choose to let it go gently
and choose to focus on NOW-

You live only once so choose not to live in a grey world.
Choose to enjoy every moment of NOW.
as life is all about living in the NOW.
(Choices are made in the NOW, not in the past nor future)

Life is about making choices.
People make choices all the time,
whether they realise it or not.

Different choices lead to different realities
and different realities lead to different events and outcomes of life.

So make the right choice so that you will live in the reality that you desire.

If you feel weak, choose to be strong.
Realise that you have the free will to choose the reality you want in life.

Do not let fear, anger, hatred and other lower emotions to rob away your rights of choosing your own reality. you can choose not to adhere to negativity by embracing positivity.