Dealing with Reality

This post is inspired by fellow blogger Suanie.
She has said that she will send some of her hate mails to me.
(she was just kidding)

Some people receive hate mails.
I am not excluded and I shall share my experience with you.

I have received a hate mail not long ago from a Chinese course mate of mine.
It is interesting to see that (s)he hates me just because I am having different interests from (her)him.
(this reminds me of fanatically religious people who hate other people who are different from them).
It is more interesting to see how (s)he put a lot of effort in hating me.
Besides spreading bad words about me,
(s)he has created a fake email account : cultexorcist @web.de
with a fake name to write a very long hate mail to me…

I have posted the hate mail on my backup blog as the hate mail is too long to be displayed here.
Here’s the permalink :

http://lfbackup.blogspot.com/2005/11/hate-mail.html

It is interesting to see how (s)he made a lot of assumptions

(S)He has failed to provoke me (I was laughing while reading the hate mail)
because I was reading something written by a coward who “slapped” me without the guts to show his(her) true identity (real name)
and this coward (my unknown course mate) was willing to spend a lot of time in creating a fake email account and writing a very long email just to provoke me.
Some people are funny. They put so much effort on doing something that is not beneficial and destructive
(hatred makes people do crazy things like that).

I pity him(her),
after wasting a lot of time on the hate mail,
(s)he has proven (her)himself to be a coward
and worst of all,
(s)he is a puppet of (her)his mind and emotions
and (s)he thinks with logic flaws (in this case, making assumption and being driven by his ego).

:)

I hope you will not do the same thing like this coward.
It is totally non-beneficial to hate others.
It only makes you weak (becoming a coward, making assumptions etc.)

Here’s a question for you to ponder.

If you receive similar hate mails
what would you do?

Here are two options :

1.
Reply the mail or respond to it angrily and create a big loop of hate war.
(I notice that there are blog wars going on amongst fellow bloggers)

2.
Simply forgive and let go and laugh at the hate mail like me

Make your choice wisely.

Yesterday a blogger friend of mine posted something on my old blog.
She was offended by my joke.
I have posted about the “drama” here.

It was really a small matter.
There is no flaming nor nasty language being used.
There are far worse situations than this such as this post.
Some people cannot handle small matters in life.

In life we meet people who are not friendly.
Sometimes they are offended by jokes that are not offensive.
You never know when they will slap you hard when you try to be nice.

Sometimes people even get offended when we do not smile nice enough to them.
They have unreasonable expectation towards us.

The main problem is,
They are so attached to small matters that they will fight over it.

There are many things that are not significant to fight over.
If people are willing to let go small matters,
Many fights and quarrels can be avoided.

There is no need for humans to fight each other over something insignificant.
Everyone should just let go and choose love.

I shall let go this small matter as well.
I blog about it to convey the message that people need to let go and live in peace.
It is not worth having a war over small matters.

Sometimes we need to take a nap to refresh ourselves.
While taking a nap we should let go all the thinking and emotions.
We do not need to bring them into our short slumber.
We just need to relax completely without any distraction nor attachment.
Nap is very nice when we let go the whole world and sleep comfortably.

After lying down,
clench your fist tightly
and tense up the muscles of your whole body for a few seconds.
After that, let go all the forces and tension and stay relaxed.
You will notice that the letting go of the tension of your body muscles actually feels very good.
Now you can have a relaxing slumber
without attachment to anything.

 
 
 
 
 
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Morning wake up I have to go to work. Yesterday must be a tiring day. I am not sure if she want to go out with me? maybe she is admiring that guy. Must finish my work earlier so that I can watch football. too much work today. life is terrible. too many burdens. today should be nice if there is less traffic jam. the music is loud. how can they play heavy metal now. it is annoying. cannot think of anything. that guy who just stares at me, is he crazy or what? If I have a gun I will shoot him now. well, last week was pretty bad. I went to that city and everyone are insane. a guy who sells the paper to me doesn’t even bother to smile. the price of that camera is so expensive. I was expecting it to be 10 bucks only. The garden is nice. I want to go there again and again but I missed it. where are my childhood friends? are they working? hope I can meet them again as I missed them so much. cannot decide which option is best for this work. today’s salat is horrible. should have eaten at Macdonalds. have to pay income tax. water bill and electricity is settled? oh, the match is starting very soon. hmmm… nice advertisement. so colorful, reminds me of the movie I saw that day. ya, the book I read at the bookstore, it has similar story. That day was rainy, what if the raining season come? that would be troublesome. I think I should call her and tell her to read this book. It will be interesting to she her reaction. wonder if she is interested in cooking as I like girls who cook well. I think many people like to play games. What is the latest game? Final Fantasy seems to be quite interesting. I should go and buy one. too bad there is work to do. and I need to cook. how come there are no one who wish to date me? I think I need to go to fitness center and do something. Monday, Tuesday, possibly Saturday. There is a new movie showing. I cannot miss it. wow, JLo is releasing her new album. must get it soon. wonder if harry potter can be very cool if he fights spiderman’s villians. Spiderman is quite cool to. I hope it is release soon. my neighbour is so noisy, so terrible. How come there are such people in life? Next time I must ignore them. if possible should horn them loud at night. stupid people. can cook chicken today? beed should be nice but.Morning wake up I have to go to work. Yesterday must be a tiring day. I am not sure if she want to go out with me? maybe she is admiring that guy. Must finish my work earlier so that I can watch football. too much work today. life is terrible. too many burdens. today should be nice if there is less traffic jam. the music is loud. how can they play heavy metal now. it is annoying. cannot think of anything. that guy who just stares at me, is he crazy or what? If I have a gun I will shoot him now. well, last week was pretty bad. I went to that city and everyone are insane. a guy who sells the paper to me doesn’t even bother to smile. the price of that camera is so expensive. I was expecting it to be 10 bucks only. The garden is nice. I want to go there again and again but I missed it. where are my childhood friends? are they working? hope I can meet them again as I missed them so much. cannot decide which option is best for this work. today’s salat is horrible. should have eaten at Macdonalds. have to pay income tax. water bill and electricity is settled? oh, the match is starting very soon. hmmm… nice advertisement. so colorful, reminds me of the movie I saw that day. ya, the book I read at the bookstore, it has similar story. That day was rainy, what if the raining season come? that would be troublesome. I think I should call her and tell her to read this book. It will be interesting to she her reaction. wonder if she is interested in cooking as I like girls who cook well. I think many people like to play games. What is the latest game? Final Fantasy seems to be quite interesting. I should go and buy one. too bad there is work to do. and I need to cook. how come there are no one who wish to date me? I think I need to go to fitness center and do something. Monday, Tuesday, possibly Saturday. There is a new movie showing. I cannot miss it. wow, JLo is releasing her new album. must get it soon. wonder if harry potter can be very cool if he fights spiderman’s villians. Spiderman is quite cool to. I hope it is release soon. my neighbour is so noisy, so terrible. How come there are such people in life? Next time I must ignore them. if possible should horn them loud at night. stupid people. can cook chicken today? beed should be nice but.Morning wake up I have to go to work. Yesterday must be a tiring day. I am not sure if she want to go out with me? maybe she is admiring that guy. Must finish my work earlier so that I can watch football. too much work today. life is terrible. too many burdens. today should be nice if there is less traffic jam. the music is loud. how can they play heavy metal now. it is annoying. cannot think of anything. that guy who just stares at me, is he crazy or what? If I have a gun I will shoot him now. well, last week was pretty bad. I went to that city and everyone are insane. a guy who sells the paper to me doesn’t even bother to smile. the price of that camera is so expensive. I was expecting it to be 10 bucks only. The garden is nice. I want to go there again and again but I missed it. where are my childhood friends? are they working? hope I can meet them again as I missed them so much. cannot decide which option is best for this work. today’s salat is horrible. should have eaten at Macdonalds. have to pay income tax. water bill and electricity is settled? oh, the match is starting very soon. hmmm… nice advertisement. so colorful, reminds me of the movie I saw that day. ya, the book I read at the bookstore, it has similar story. That day was rainy, what if the raining season come? that would be troublesome. I think I should call her and tell her to read this book. It will be interesting to she her reaction. wonder if she is interested in cooking as I like girls who cook well. I think many people like to play games. What is the latest game? Final Fantasy seems to be quite interesting. I should go and buy one. too bad there is work to do. and I need to cook. how come there are no one who wish to date me? I think I need to go to fitness center and do something. Monday, Tuesday, possibly Saturday. There is a new movie showing. I cannot miss it. wow, JLo is releasing her new album. must get it soon. wonder if harry potter can be very cool if he fights spiderman’s villians. Spiderman is quite cool to. I hope it is release soon. my neighbour is so noisy, so terrible. How come there are such people in life? Next time I must ignore them. if possible should horn them loud at night. stupid people. can cook chicken today? beed should be nice but…………………………….

Mental chatters

Pursuing something boldly or taking risk in doing something is courageous.
Letting go requires courage too.

One can do anything to gain something
but is (s)he willing to let go (her) his possession?

Not many people have the courage to let go.
They fear loosing something valuable in life.
They do not really realise that nothing stays constant in life, as things and events are just illusions and they do not stay with us forever.

Money, fame, friends, lives etc.

Choose to overcome such fear and let go the attachment.

Only people who can conquer themselves have the courage of letting go.

Courage does not always come with might.
It can be very gentle.
It is the courage of letting go.

Sometimes when people do nasty things to us we label them as “bad” people.
Some people even label them with negative names like idiot and moron as a way of expressing anger, which is actually unhealthy.

We often label our friends, relatives and people who are nice to us as “good”

Therefore people in our lives are divided into “good” and “bad”
and such labels are being attached firmly in the minds of many people.

That is an illusion of life
Many people live in the world of labels.

“good” and “bad” do not really exist.
They are just a part of the same spectrum at different poles.

There is no good or bad people.

“Good” people might one day change to “bad” people
and “bad” people might choose to repent and become “good” people
so who are we to judge people and put labels?
People will change.
What labels people are carrying are not important.
What is important is the choice people make in the now.

Instead of attaching to labels,
choose to do good deeds in the now
think and feel positively all the time.

There is no point in labeling people.
People will change as time goes by.
Let go the attachment towards labels and judgments that you have put on others.

Focusing in the now and the letting go of attachments may not be easy for many people.
However, practice makes perfect.
Meditating is a very good exercise to help you to develop a focused, disciplined and calm mind
so that you are prepared to face the reality.

Meditation is not religious.
Anybody of any faith can practise it.
It is just a mental exercise to help you to develop your mental and emotional potential.
It is effective in training you to be able to let go any attachments and negativity.

When you do meditation
you are focusing on a subject in the now
Thoughts of the past memories, random inner chatter and negativity might arise while you meditate
so choose to let go these attachments and stay focused.

It is not easy at first to let go while meditating but with consistent practice
you will benefit a lot from having trained mind and emotion.

There are many kinds of meditation such as breathing meditation and love meditation.
I would recommend you to do love meditation consistently as it is very practical and helpful.
Love meditation is an exercise to cultivate the emotions of higher spectrum while developing your ability to stay focused.

Many people who practise love meditation consistently find that people around them become very nice
and they encounter positive events in life very often.
That is because they choose to embrace the higher spectrum of emotions when doing love meditation, which cause them to attract positive events in life.

Meditation is a very healthy exercise for your mind and emotion.
I hope you will benefit greatly from practising it consistently.

Peace.

Let’s perceive life as a game of table tennis (or any ball game)

There are people, who do not focus on the game,
they let their mind drift elsewhere.
Possibly they are dwelling in past memory or daydreaming,
or they are worrying about the outcome of the game.
End up they just let their body respond to the ball automatically (mindlessly) and they make mistakes in the game.

While playing the game one should focus on the now and think only on how to play the ball smoothly.
One has to focus entirely on how to catch the ball, hit the ball, think about the angle and tactics and many other aspects.
One should not think of the outcome, just let it flow smoothly.
One should not worry about the game, dwell in the past nor day dreaming.
One should just let go all these thoughts and focus on the game, and stay in the now.

When one manage to do so,
one can control the game well and master the flow of the game
and things will flow smoothly.

Game is to enjoy,
so there is no need for us to feel stress while playing it.
Let go the expectations and just play the game with flow.
Enjoy the game.
If possible, smile while you play

Do that in your life too

In life we might encounter conflict with other people due to many reasons
such as misunderstanding, negativity (egoistic, hatred, anger), logic flaws and many more.

It is unwise to hurl nasty comments back at them or whine as it won’t work at all.
It only makes things worse,
making us being trapped in the loop of life.

To deal with such conflict we should approach these people and talk to them diplomatically with respect and solve the problem properly and smoothly.

If they still choose to attach to the conflict and not willing to let go,
well…. it is sad for them,
it is their choice *shrug*
We just have to let go and not attach to such problem.
We cannot expect everyone to have the same “wavelength” as us
and we cannot expect everybody to choose to be nice to us.

Just let go and move on.
Let them say or do whatever they want.
They are just wasting their time and energy while focusing on negativity, which will bring more negativity to themselves.
Save your energy on this matter and do other things that are constructive in your life.

Realise that “good” people might change to “bad” people and vice versa as “time” goes by so do not label or judge people as “good” or “bad”.
Therefore we also should let go and not attaching to perceive that certain people are “bad” for creating trouble for us.
That is the art of forgiving.

Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff by Richard Carlson
is a very good book that I would recommend you to read.

It is good because it is simple, reader friendly and straight forward.

The author stress on letting go things in life so that life will flow on and that will lead to positive outcomes.

Happy reading.

 

“Thank You” in many languages

AFRIKAANS	dankie
ALBANIAN	faleminderit
ALSATIAN	merci
ARABIC	chokrane
TUNISIAN ARABIC	Barak Allahu fiik
ARMENIAN	chnorakaloutioun
AZERI	çox sag olun / tesekkur edirem
BAMBARA	a ni kié
BASQUE	eskerrik asko (southern basque) / milesker (northern basque)
BELARUSIAN	Дзякую (dziakuju)
BENGALI	dhanyabaad
BOBO	a ni kié
BOSNIAN	hvala
BRETON	trugéré / trugaré / trugarez
BULGARIAN	merci / blagodaria
BURMESE	(thint ko) kyay tzu tin pa te
CATALAN	gràcies
CEBUANO	salamat
CHINESE	xièxie
CORSICAN	grazie
CROAT	hvala (merci) hvala ti (je te remercie) / hvala vam (je vous remercie)
CZECH	děkuji / díky
DANISH	tak
DUTCH	dank u wel / dank je wel
ESPERANTO	dankon
ESTONIAN	tänan / tänan väga (thank you very much)
EWÉ	akpé
FAROESE	takk fyri
FIDJIAN	vinaka
FINNISH	kiitos
FRENCH	merci
FRIULAN	gracie
GALICIAN	gracias / graciñas
GERMAN	danke
GREEK	ευχαριστώ (efharisto)
GUARANÍ	aguyjé
GUJARATI	aabhar
HAITIAN CREOLE	mèsi
HAWAIIAN	mahalo
HEBREW	toda
HINDI	dhanyavad
HUNGARIAN	köszönöm
ICELANDIC	takk
INDONESIAN	terima kasih
IRISH GAELIC	go raibh maith agat
ITALIAN	grazie
JAPANESE	arigatô
KABYLIAN	tanemirt
KANNADA	dhanyavadagalu
KHMER	akun
KIRUNDI	murakoze
KOREAN	kam sah hamnida
KOTOKOLI	sobodi
KRIO	tenki
KURDISH	spas
LAO	khob chai (deu)
LATIN	gratias ago (from 1 pers.) gratias agimus (from X pers.)
LATVIAN	paldies
LEBANESE	choukrane
LITHUANIAN	aciu
LOW SAXON	bedankt / dank ju wel
LUXEMBOURGEOIS	merci
MACEDONIAN	blagodaram
MALAGASY	misaotra
MALAY	terima kasih
MALTESE	nizzik hajr / grazzi / nirringrazzjak
MARATHI	aabhari aahe / aabhar / dhanyavaad
MONGOLIAN	bayarlalaa (Баярлалаа)
NORWEGIAN	takk
OCCITAN	mercé / grandmercé
PAPIAMENTO	danki
PERSIAN	motashakkeram, mamnun (formal) / mochchakkeram, mamnun, mersi (informal)
POLISH	dziękuję
PORTUGUESE	obrigado (M speaking) / obrigada (F speaking)
ROMANI	najis tuke
ROMANIAN	mulţumesc
RUSSIAN	спасибо (spacibo)
SAMOAN	faafetai lava
SARDINIAN	gratzias
SCOTTISH GAELIC	tapadh leat (singular, familiar) tapadh leibh (plural, respectful)
SERBIAN	hvala (merci) hvala ti (je te remercie) / hvala vam (je vous remercie)
SHONA	waita (plural: maita)
SINDHI	meharbani
SLOVAK	dakujem
SLOVENIAN	hvala (merci) hvala ti (je te remercie) / hvala vam (je vous remercie)
SOBOTA	hvala
SPANISH	gracias / muchas gracias
SWAHILI	asante / asante sana
SWEDISH	tack
TAGALOG	salamat po
TAHITIAN	mauruuru
TAMIL	nanedri
TATAR	rahmat
THAI	ขอบคุณคะ (kop khun kha) - woman speaking ขอบคุณครับ (kop khun krap) - man speaking
TIGRINYA	yekeniele
TURKISH	tesekkur ederim, sagolun
UDMURT	tau
UKRAINIAN	diakuiu
URDU	shukriya
VIETNAMESE	cám Ön (VPS Times font needed)
WALOON (”betchfessîs” spelling)	gråces / merci thank you very much : gråces (merci) traze côps, gråces (merci) beacôp
WELSH	diolch
WEST INDIAN CREOLE	mèsi
WOLOF	djiere dieuf
XHOSA	enkosi
YIDDISH	a dank
ZULU	ngiyabonga (literally means : I give thanks) siyabonga (= we give thanks) ngiyabonga kakhulu (thanks very much)

 
source : FREELANG
 

All words of “Thank You” above are just labels of many languages.

Human beings are separated by so many aspects like culture, races, countries, languages.
If we do not choose to let go the attachment towards these labels and differences,
We cannot get together and live in harmony.
as human beings.

Love brings unification.
Choose love and choose unification,
not separation and attachments towards labels.

Let go the differences and labels
Express the gratitude behind the label “Thank You”
by showing your warm, sincere smile.

Many people have the perception that letting go is very difficult to do.

as if letting go is like…

Tossing away a very valuable golden cup.

Cutting away the string of a kite.

Forgetting something meaningful totally, blanking it out of the mind.

Actually letting go can be like…

Loosing the clenching fist gently.

Lie down comfortably and close the eyes gently.

Not attaching to important memory, just gently see through it and then focus on the now.

Make letting go a comfortable practice in your daily life
and you will see how smooth it flows.

You are such a terrible person.
You are the best worker in the world.
This is right, you are wrong
Love is wonderful.
Democracy brings prosperity.
Perfect and Imperfect.

All these are labels.

They are just names given to things and states.
We encounter so many labels in life.

People who are ignorant are easily being manipulated by labels.
They are attached to these labels.
Many people get hurt just because someone “paste” negative labels on them
and many people have false pride when “nice” labels are given to them.
Even the meaning of love is distorted as “love” has become a label that is directed to many meanings, including lust. Nowadays it is better to say “compassion” than “love” to people as “compassion” can be understood more accurately.

Label is just an illusion that points at the truth,
it is not the truth itself
and labels can be manipulated to point at the fake “truth”

Choose to let go the attachment towards labels in life
and you will realise the nature of reality
and you will be strong.

Eat when you are hungry,
Sleep when you are tired,

By doing things naturally,
You are letting the flow of life flows.

Eat when you are full,
Work when are tired,
You are going against the natural flow.

Many people are living in chaotic lives.

People need to realise that we need to live smoothly,
living a harsh life will bring problems to us mentally and physically.
Without smooth flow in life, we will get “stuck” in the loops of life
and it will be hard for us to move on.

Sometimes when we need to let go, just let go…
Choose to let go, and let the flow of life flows…

Wise people know that attachment is the source of suffering.

When we are attached to something,
we suffer from feeling bad when we lose it.
Outer events can manipulate the inner feelings of people who are attached to certain things.

Some people who choose to dwell in past memories are said to be attaching to past events. They just choose not to let go…..

Realise that events, pasts and everything that exist around us are just illusion.
When we extent the time frame to infinity,
there will be no event that really matters, as events are just temporary.

For example,
if you feel sad when you lose 50 dollars.
such an event is insignificant after 30 years, 60 years, a lifetime, millennia.
It has a beginning, and it will reach its end.

So realise that events are illusions that exist temporary
and choose not to adhere to them.
Choose to let go and be free.

Many people unconsciously dwell in the past.
They choose to relive their past memory.
Day after day they think about their old life
instead of living in now.

If you choose to adhere to the past all the time,
you will get stuck in your past reality and it will be hard for you to move on.

Past exist so that we can learn from it and move on.
It is the old events that have faded away so there is no point of reliving it.
Choose not to whine
Choose not to believe that life stays in the grey world of past

If the past is haunting you
Choose to let it go gently
and choose to focus on NOW-

You live only once so choose not to live in a grey world.
Choose to enjoy every moment of NOW.
as life is all about living in the NOW.
(Choices are made in the NOW, not in the past nor future)