Dealing with Reality

I would love to share an article with you.
It’s written by a teacher of mine : Prophageus
You can say that he is today’s guest blogger. Enjoy !
 

Will

The dictionary defines will as something with which one makes a choice, especially with purposefulness or determination. That is a very useful way to look at what we all have available to us. And, if you take any event, and it’s perceived outcome you can trace it all back to a single choice. One of the better tools we’ve been given, free will is definitely one of the most useful if we learn to use it. Many of us don’t really make real choices, we make frivolous ones based on many outside factors that may or may not be too relevant.

So, what goes into using our will to make a choice? What are the key ingredients to expressing our will in a useful and meaningful way? Do we really have a choice? Are we in enough control of ourselves to make real choices with purposefulness? When’s the last time you made a choice, I mean REALLY made a choice and stuck to it and did it? Will is the ultimate tool, but how do you use it?

The first step to expressing your will successfully, in a manner that’s useful to yourself and others, is to realize that you have WILL. So, how do you realize you have will? You look at yourself, deeply, and observe your choices. Ask yourself, why did I really choose to do THAT? Many choices we make aren’t really expressive of our will, sometimes they express other’s will. We make choices based on others opinions, on the unknown, on ‘facts’, on our own sometimes unrealistic perception, on other’s unrealistic perception, on ‘experts’, on feelings we might not necessarily interpret correctly, etc. So, analyze the choices you make throughout a day. Count how many times you actually made a real choice. A choice where you actually really wanted something, and you made a real determined, purposeful choice to do it/get it/etc. Observe yourself, and your will, how you use it daily. That is how to realize you have will, and how intertwined it is in everthing that occurs in your life. You can begin to see how your will leads you to everything you experience, whether you give others power over your will or use it yourself, everything is up to you.. it’s your choice.

So, after we realize we have will, then what? Well, now you start to use your will to really make a choice to get to know yourself. You cannot really make realistic clear goals of what you want in life if you don’t even really know yourself. So, get to know yourself. Then, use your will to decide what you do and do not want in your life, and make a firm choice to stick to that. Start exercising your will. Even with something simple, like a habit you KNOW you should stop, but you just haven’t for ’some reason’. Use your newfound will to stop that habit ‘cold turkey‘, and be aware of how powerful and alive you now feel. When you really start to make real choices, and you use your will to do so, you’ll notice a change in yourself and your reality.

I have to admit that I have made a mistake recently.
I have to apologies to myself and make the right choices.

Actually I was confused about my choices and action.
Recently I do things out of my passion.
I have to admit that I have created several new blogs because of my keen interest in certain themes. I blog and gain pleasure from doing so.
I was not certain whether my action was taken due to intuition, inspiration, distraction or passion.
I just do things headlong without really considering my action.

However, I was aware that something is wrong.
I feel like I am doing things that I am not suppose to do.
Time is wasted and somehow I went imbalance and confused.
I have made my choices unwisely.

Making choices is not easy.
I myself have made a lot of mistake in choosing.
I must be aware of my “future” action
and consider every of my choice,
whether the decision I make has a “need” or it is just an outcome of distraction or confusion.
I learn from my mistake and I must move on.

For now I need to find my direction.
I feel like my current blog is ego driven and I need to stop for a while and set things properly.
I need to clear my head.

Making choices is simple,
but not easy.

Imagination is the creation of consciousness.
It is a great potential in us and we should learn to develop it to live in a great life.
With imagination, many things are made possible
and many problems can be solved.

An idea is being imagined before it is being put in action and manifest in our reality.

For example, a computer in front of you is started from the idea of the inventor.
The idea is put to work and finally computers are being produced and being used by us.
Imagination is simply the bridge between our consciousness and reality.

Imagination involve not just visualization but other senses and feelings as well. The shaper your imagination goes, the better your potential is developed and the more intelligent you will become.

Many people are limited in life because they cannot imagine well.
They complain that their life is plain yet they do not really know what they desire.
People who can imagine well “see” better into what they desire in life.
They make better choices and they can control their reality.

Contrary to what many people believe,
Imagination can be developed fast.
I would recommend my readers to put effort in developing this useful potential so that you will gain lifelong benefit from applying it.
I might blog about it on my future post.

Applying will and imagination in life makes a person strong as one who does so has the control over oneself and reality.

Will power is a human potential that is worth developing.
With will your consciousness is making firm choices and putting your will into action further empower your act of consciousness.

Will is the action of your consciousness by making choices.
That is why one needs to learn about choosing.
It is simple, but may not be easy.

With will your consciousness is making a choice and heading towards its goal.
Consistent will will enable you to manifest the reality that you desire.

Having will power is very useful in dealing with yourself,
which is controlling your own emotions and mind,
instead of being controlled by them.

Weak people are easily swayed by outer stimulus,
For example people who are over sensitive (having low emotional quotient)
can become extremely unease and tensed when someone just call them “stupid” or “useless”
(It is obvious that emotionally strong people would not let themselves being controlled by anger just because of some petty labels)

Some people even commit suicide just because their inner voice and emotions have controlled them. That is very sad.
Therefore we need to develop our will power to control ourselves well.
We need will power to be able to make choices and control our own reality.
(Remember, choices should be made by your consciousness (will), not your inner voice nor your emotions)

Choose to develop your will power to control your emotions and mind.
Whenever your emotions and inner voices are trying to influence you, choose firmly not to succumb to them. You are the master of yourself, not your mind nor emotions.
With consistent will, you will gradually develop your will power and your emotions and mind will have less influence over you. You should control them, instead of being controlled by them

There are ways to develop will power and I shall blog about it in my future post.

Life is about making choices.
Make them well.

Today’s post is nothing much about realisation of reality.
It is about my experience in blogging.

I would like to post about blogging today as I have not been updating this blog lately
because I was a bit busy focusing on my other blogs.

I blog a lot.
I have about ten blogs.
I started blogging since 2001.

People always ask me why don’t I have a blog with many categories for various themes.

To me, it is not possible.
Each blog of mine is unique in its own way.
Each blog has its theme, mood and direction.
I cannot simply just mix my anime blog with my romance blog.
The mood is just wrong.

Blogging is just a way of expressing ideas and thoughts.
Just like any other activities like walking and talking…
Every blogger blogs has (her)his own way and direction.

To me, blogging is a way of expressing my passion.
Every time I post an entry, I feel satisfied.
Blogging is meaningful to me.
At least through blogging,
I share my joy and passion with my readers
and I improve humanity little by little through my blogs.

Just like what multidimid has commented on other blog,
blogs are made for the joy of sharing.
I agree with him.
I believe that both of us understand each other well…
and I am happy to have a loyal and wise reader like him (her).
(I hope multidimid will let me know his/her gender)
 

Question : Am I blogging for fame?

Answer : I blog anonymously. Can I become famous with a realization blog like this?
Many of my other blogs are completely anonymous, even without my nickname being displayed.

Question : Am I blogging for money?

Answer : No. Obviously not. I have Google adsence on my Online Shopping blog and that feature is being added just for fun and excitement. I am not updating that blog anymore.

Question : Do I have any blogging agenda?

Answer : I share stuffs on my blogs and I blog for joy and passion. My main blog is this blog. It has been submitted to various blog directories because I want as many people as possible to read my entries and benefit from them. Many people need to read something that can help them to live well.

If you have more question,
feel free to ask me honestly.
 

Regarding my style of blogging,
I blog in simple sentences.
I avoid using bombastic words and flowery sentences
because I want my message to be understood by my readers.
I want to reduce the communication barrier between my readers and me.

I want to have good connection with my readers.
That is why I blog as friendly as possible.
I comment on my readers’ blogs and I display all their blogs on my right panel
To me, the relationship between blogger and readers is quite important.
Somehow we are interrelated and it is best to have good relationship with other people in life.
I choose harmony.

Sometimes I might disagree with your ideas and you might disagree with my entries.
That is fine for me as disagreement is acceptable in discussion.
The important part of a discussion is the relationship amongst us.
Sadly some readers choose to hate me or label me as hypocrite by making assumption about me (they can’t read my mind and personality).
It is their choice… I respect them and …
so be it *shrug*

Some readers commented that I blog like an old wise man or I am like a Jedi master.
Sorry to let you know that I am a 23 year young student.
I simple just share my realization on this blog.

Realization is very different from Philosophy and theory.
Philosophy and theory are like talking Bla Bla Bla and making hypothesis and assumption and put some points to support them.
Sometimes they make things complicated and end up they walk around in circles.

Realisation is simple
it is just observing what is being presented without judgment.
Just like a stone is a stone, and falling leaves are just falling leaves.
It is simply observation without judgment.
However, people perceive simple things in complicated manner
as if Zen-like stuffs are very deep theories…
I do not know how this happens
but I can only say that things are actually simple
it is the illusions of mind that make us feel confused.
There is no need to walk around in circles and put complicated labels.
Keep things simple.
 

I would like to introduce you to some of my other blogs.
There is a list of my blogs on the right panel of this blog for your ease of finding my blogs.

Since the scope of my blogs are very wide,
please do not expect all of my blogs to satisfy your taste because each blog has very different theme.

Enjoy :

~* Dealing with Reality

This is a blog for me to share my realisation of life.
You can say that it is a “spiritual” blog as it focus on having a healthy and free livelihood,
It is about being able to control one’s life instead of being “trapped” in life.
This blog is telling my readers that life is not just about suffering and one can choose to live a comfortable reality.

~ Life Feel (Story Blog)

This is my xanga story blog.
I have not been updating it for a while.
Last time I used to post meaningful stories on my xanga blog.
The stories focus on love, compassion, friendship and other aspects of life.
If you like my xanga blog stories,
please share them with your friends.

Cool Stuffs

I have stopped updating this blog.
It is about online shopping.
Last time I used to enjoy online shopping.
I have discovered a lot of interesting and weird stuffs on eBay
so I thought the idea of sharing my online shopping experience is cool
That’s how I got this blog.
I stop blogging on this blog because it took me too much time to post an entry.

~Holding Your Hand~

This is a blog of romance.
The mood of this blog is important to me
as it is a piece of emotional artwork.
The layout is very simple and plain to express the idea of pure love between a girl, and a boy.
The author is anonymous to preserve the mood of the blog
I even do not want my readers to know the gender of the author for this reason
each post is short, simple and compact.
Its emotional value is posted in a spacious cube…
the sense of security and privacy of a person’s love feelings.

Relaxing (anti stress blog)

This blog is my anti-stress blog.
I believe people need to slow down a bit in life.
People need to learn to let go and relax.
This blog is very simple and spacious with relaxing pictures and calm mood
If you feel tired and stressed
simply calm down and enjoy yourself on my relaxing blog.

~Kuchiki Rukia Fan Blog~

Yeah. This blog is cool and active.
I am an anime watcher.
One of my favorite anime is Bleach.
Kuchiki Rukia is the lead female character in Bleach.
This blog is created for her fans.
You can find a lot of goodies like fan arts and banners here.

My Days

It is my new blog and it is not ready yet.
Expect to see a lot of my pictures there.

Life Feel Back Up Blog

Most of my blogs are on Blogsome.
I need to keep a backup of my entries on this blog
in case Blogsome terminates all its blogs
(this might happen, I hope it will never happen )
sometimes I post very long articles there and simply put the link on my other blogs,
just to save space.
 

About other people’s blog,
I must say that it is not easy to find good blogs on internet.
I read other blogs for fun and interaction.
Many blogs are online diaries where bloggers share their life experiences and interesting findings on their blog.
Sadly many bloggers choose to blog negatively.
Personally I would recommend my readers to avoid the obsession of reading negative blogs
but if you think it is alright and you can control yourself well,
you can read them for fun

If you want me to recommend good blogs,
I would recommend you to read something positive.
One nice example is smashp0p by Jason Goh.
although he blogs about mundane life in Malaysia,
his blog is colorful and positive.
His entries are simple and easy to understand.
I like to read blogs that are positive and simple…
as I always say, it is better to be simple and understandable.
 

About other people’s ways of blogging,
I respect their ways of blogging.
Blogging is free.
A blogger can choose whatever ways of blogging as long as (s)he does not limit or harm other people.
There are many negative and flaming blogs,
just like there are many negative people.
I choose to accept all blogs and bloggers.
“bad” and “good” to me are irrelevant.
There are various “colors” in a spectrum and it is best to learn to accept all sorts of blogs,
be it “good” or “bad”.
However, I have my own taste.
I prefer to visit positive blogs that are nice and simple. That is just my taste.

I think there is no need to teach nor lecture other people on how to blog. Whether a person blogs for fame, money or bad intention, (s)he has her(his) own journey in life. One will learn from (her)his own experience. What we need to do is learning how to accept them and live together harmoniously.
 

If you like to know more about blogging, you can email me or chat with my on instant messenger.
I am willing to share my blogging experience with my readers.

My Google Talk ID is iQing1314
and my MSN and YIM IDs are wushu_whc
if you have ICQ and AIM, you can add me :
202 405 059 and iQing

See you around my readers
Take care and live well.

This post is inspired by fellow blogger Suanie.
She has said that she will send some of her hate mails to me.
(she was just kidding)

Some people receive hate mails.
I am not excluded and I shall share my experience with you.

I have received a hate mail not long ago from a Chinese course mate of mine.
It is interesting to see that (s)he hates me just because I am having different interests from (her)him.
(this reminds me of fanatically religious people who hate other people who are different from them).
It is more interesting to see how (s)he put a lot of effort in hating me.
Besides spreading bad words about me,
(s)he has created a fake email account : cultexorcist @web.de
with a fake name to write a very long hate mail to me…

I have posted the hate mail on my backup blog as the hate mail is too long to be displayed here.
Here’s the permalink :

http://lfbackup.blogspot.com/2005/11/hate-mail.html

It is interesting to see how (s)he made a lot of assumptions

(S)He has failed to provoke me (I was laughing while reading the hate mail)
because I was reading something written by a coward who “slapped” me without the guts to show his(her) true identity (real name)
and this coward (my unknown course mate) was willing to spend a lot of time in creating a fake email account and writing a very long email just to provoke me.
Some people are funny. They put so much effort on doing something that is not beneficial and destructive
(hatred makes people do crazy things like that).

I pity him(her),
after wasting a lot of time on the hate mail,
(s)he has proven (her)himself to be a coward
and worst of all,
(s)he is a puppet of (her)his mind and emotions
and (s)he thinks with logic flaws (in this case, making assumption and being driven by his ego).

:)

I hope you will not do the same thing like this coward.
It is totally non-beneficial to hate others.
It only makes you weak (becoming a coward, making assumptions etc.)

Here’s a question for you to ponder.

If you receive similar hate mails
what would you do?

Here are two options :

1.
Reply the mail or respond to it angrily and create a big loop of hate war.
(I notice that there are blog wars going on amongst fellow bloggers)

2.
Simply forgive and let go and laugh at the hate mail like me

Make your choice wisely.

Many people are “trapped” in the loop of life.
They always meet the same kind of people
and they always encounter similar events.
They thought that things will change after they change their jobs or schools
but they are still trapped in the same loop after they do so…

No matter what happens,
similar events repeat themselves all the time
as if the same kind of life is looping itself everyday.

They meet people with similar character and attitude.
Probably they keep on meeting nasty people for no reason.
They encounter “bad luck“ frequently
as if the whole world is against them.

This kind of weird life looping might make us ponder…
we are like being trapped in the looping of life
or we are missing something
or we need to learn something
or we need to change something to escape from such loop.

Here’s a question for you.
If you are “trapped” in the loop of life
what would you choose to do?

Sadly, many people have chosen to accept and believe that the reality is harsh.

*shrug*

It is their choice of believing so.
So be it.