Dealing with Reality

Here’s an analogy.

We are swordsmen.

The reality (life) around us is like the blade of the sword.
The handle of the sword is our inner state.

How our reality changes depends on how we control the sword.

We need to learn to control the sword and bring the flow of life.
This is an important lesson that we have to learn in life.

We have to learn when to let go and when to attach.

When the flow is there,
events of reality will come smoothly.
Things will manifest by themselves nicely,
even people around us will smile at us for no reason.

When the flow become stagnant
we might face various negative events in life.

Life is like the art of swordplay.
It is about how well your consciousness can control the sword.
When you can control your sword well,
you control not just controllable events,
but also events that seem uncontrollable like possibilities, outcomes, weather etc.
as everything is interconnected.

Be a good controller of your own sword
so that you can deal with reality well.

Age is not a barrier for realisation.
There is no saying that older people are wiser than younger people.
There are many young people who are open minded and willing to take action in life.

Some “old” people are still “immature” so we cannot conclude that age is an accurate measurement for a person’s wisdom.
Do not let age limit you from doing anything.
Don’t even let the belief of “age barrier” limit you.

Life is in the now. So live the life you really desire.
Make the now the best moment in your life.

How long is life?
How old is a person?
Is a 17 year old boy who is going to die in one week time old (as he has lived more than 98% of his life span) ?

Time is just a perception.
Some people experience their reality very fast, as if time is very “short”.
Some people experience “long” time, as if a month is like a year time.
Comparing a 45 year old man who lives in “short” time and a 27 year old man who lives in “long” time, who is older?

*shrug*

There is no point in debating about illusions of life.
Realise that life is ageless
and you are living in the now.

To deal with anger, the first thing you need to do is knowing that you are angry.

People let their emotions and voices in head (mind) control them.
They unconsciously choose to do whatever their emotions and inner chatter tell them to do.
To deal with your “inner” self,
you have to observe your mind and emotion with your consciousness.
By doing so you start to become aware of your mind and emotion.

(for example) Many people who get angry do not really realise that they are in the state of anger.
They simply do whatever that comes into their mind and emotion.
They lack the will to control themselves.

Whenever you face negative emotions,
simply observe your inner state
as if you are the third party who observes your mind and feelings.
Observe and realise that you are in negative state.

After that calm down and choose to let go all attachment towards the negativity.
Do not think of the things (stimulus) that cause the negativity.
Think of something positive,
like imagine lying down gently and happily in warm water.
Choose to control your mind and emotion.
Gradually you will develop will power to overcome yourself.

A good exercise to deal with yourself is meditation.
While meditating, we are focusing and observing something with our consciousness.
The inner chatter (mind) and emotion will arise
and we will have to observe them with our consciousness.
After that we either choose to ignore them or having control over them.
Simply apply what you do in meditation in real life and learn to control yourself.

It is not easy to conquer yourself at first but practice makes perfect.
Being able to deal with yourself is an important step to control your own life.