People who cannot control their thoughts and emotions, cannot control the reality.
They let reality control their thoughts and emotions.
They cannot control because they are not good at making conscious choices.
They are more to accepters than choosers.

Start to control your thoughts and emotions by realising that you have free will to choose.
you can choose not to let negativity control you and you can embrace higher emotions like love, compassion and gratitude.

By having control over your “inner” world
you can proceed to control your “outer” reality.