Dealing with Reality

Let’s perceive life as a game of table tennis (or any ball game)

There are people, who do not focus on the game,
they let their mind drift elsewhere.
Possibly they are dwelling in past memory or daydreaming,
or they are worrying about the outcome of the game.
End up they just let their body respond to the ball automatically (mindlessly) and they make mistakes in the game.

While playing the game one should focus on the now and think only on how to play the ball smoothly.
One has to focus entirely on how to catch the ball, hit the ball, think about the angle and tactics and many other aspects.
One should not think of the outcome, just let it flow smoothly.
One should not worry about the game, dwell in the past nor day dreaming.
One should just let go all these thoughts and focus on the game, and stay in the now.

When one manage to do so,
one can control the game well and master the flow of the game
and things will flow smoothly.

Game is to enjoy,
so there is no need for us to feel stress while playing it.
Let go the expectations and just play the game with flow.
Enjoy the game.
If possible, smile while you play

Do that in your life too

Your thought and Emotion affects your life greatly.

People always have the perception that thought and emotion is something “inside” us
Most probably it is because they have inner physical sensation when they feel or think of something.
There is no saying that our consciousness is “inside” our bodies.
Our consciousness can be enveloping the physical body instead of residing “inside” it
or perhaps the consciousness is timeless and spaceless and it perceives through the physical body.
If that is the case, our thought and emotional process is affecting not just ourselves, but also our surrounding, as there is “connection” between our inner world and outer reality.

We are like souls with bodies, not bodies with souls.

What we think and feel attracts similar realities,
which will lead to similar outcome.

Thinking and feeling is actually making choices because we actually choose to think and feel.
Many people do not realise it as they have accepted that feeling and thought is something naturally fixed and not their choice. It is not true.
By making choices, even subtle choices of feeling and thinking,
you are choosing and attracting reality in life.

So be careful of what you choose to think and feel.
Choose to avoid negative thinking and emotion when they arise.
Attaching to this negativity will only cause you to be trapped in the loop of life where negative events will repeat themselves endlessly.
Therefore it is important to let go of the attachment towards negativity.

Avoid attaching to negativity (hatred, sadness, anger, greed).
One has the free will to choose to embrace the higher spectrum (love, gratitude).
Choose to have love and compassion and think healthily
and you will find that your life events are positive.

In life we might encounter conflict with other people due to many reasons
such as misunderstanding, negativity (egoistic, hatred, anger), logic flaws and many more.

It is unwise to hurl nasty comments back at them or whine as it won’t work at all.
It only makes things worse,
making us being trapped in the loop of life.

To deal with such conflict we should approach these people and talk to them diplomatically with respect and solve the problem properly and smoothly.

If they still choose to attach to the conflict and not willing to let go,
well…. it is sad for them,
it is their choice *shrug*
We just have to let go and not attach to such problem.
We cannot expect everyone to have the same “wavelength” as us
and we cannot expect everybody to choose to be nice to us.

Just let go and move on.
Let them say or do whatever they want.
They are just wasting their time and energy while focusing on negativity, which will bring more negativity to themselves.
Save your energy on this matter and do other things that are constructive in your life.

Realise that “good” people might change to “bad” people and vice versa as “time” goes by so do not label or judge people as “good” or “bad”.
Therefore we also should let go and not attaching to perceive that certain people are “bad” for creating trouble for us.
That is the art of forgiving.

Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff by Richard Carlson
is a very good book that I would recommend you to read.

It is good because it is simple, reader friendly and straight forward.

The author stress on letting go things in life so that life will flow on and that will lead to positive outcomes.

Happy reading.